Polite requests

Could, would, would you mind, sounding polite in English.

The rules

  • "Could you… please?" is politer than "can you"; imperatives sound rude to strangers.
  • "Would you mind" is always followed by -ing: "mind opening".
  • "Would you mind" asks if it bothers you, agreeing means saying "not at all" or "no problem".
  • Asking permission politely: "Could I…?" ("May I" is even more formal.)
  • "Would it be possible to…?", the ultra-polite request formula.
  • Offers use "Would you like…?", "Do you want that I…" is not English structure.
  • "I was wondering if you could…", extremely polite, great for emails.

Examples

  • Could you pass the salt, please?
  • Would you mind opening the window?
  • Not at all.
  • Could I borrow your charger for a minute?
  • Would it be possible to reschedule.
  • Would you like some help?
  • I was wondering if you could review my essay.

Quick check

Pick an answer to see the rule behind it.

1.Which request is the most polite?

2.Would you mind _____ the window?

3.Someone asks "Would you mind waiting?" You are happy to wait. What do you say?

4._____ I borrow your charger for a minute?

5.Which is the most natural way to offer help?

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